SFP 95 – Episode 95: Writing the Headlines of our Life Today: What we can learn from going through cancer for the situation we are in with Brigitte Lavoie, M.P.s, Solution Focused Therapist, Trainer and Supervisor
Simply Focus Podcast – Episode #95Hosted by: Elfie Czerny & Dominik Godat | Intro: Bibiana Czerny & Ken Brooks | Music: www.bensound.com
SFP 95 - Episode 95: Writing the Headlines of our Life Today: What we can learn from going through cancer for the situation we are in right now with Brigitte Lavoie
“What do I want to say at the end of this experience? What are the things that I hope I would have accomplished at the end of this experience?”
“‘You must have good reasons‘ made a huge difference in our interaction.”
“Imagine you have a conflict with someone that you have to stay home with because of COVID-19. And you spend two days just remembering what you like about that person and writing it down is going to change your attitude towards that person.”
“We underestimate our capacities to get through rough times.”
Show Notes
In today’s episode, we talk with Brigitte Lavoie, M.P.s, Solution Focused therapist, trainer, supervisor and receiver of the 2019 SFBTA Insoo Kim Berg Memorial Award, about
- what fascinates her with Solution Focus right now after her cancer episode in the last 1 1/2 years,
- how she applied Solution Focused practices to her life with cancer,
- how she knows that she had more good days than bad days,
- how she used exceptions from the past to deal with the situation,
- talking about the preferred future in a way that effectively supports you,
- Ellen Quick’s appropriate caution questions that helped Brigitte in her situation,
- the miracle question with bad days,
- everybody having good reasons for doing things,
- the letter she wrote to her daughter about all the things she admires about her and the differences formulating compliments can make,
- what she kept doing that helps her now with COVID19,
- the ten positive emotions by Barbara Fredrickson and the connections to Solution Focus,
- that we often underestimate our capacity to get through rough times.
- The Challenge of the Week: Ask yourself: What kind of animal would I like to be? And when in your past were you already more like this animal?
Resources
- Find out more about Brigitte Lavoie and her work on her website.
- On her website you will also find a lot of valuable, inspiring free resources in English language, including Resources for the COVID-19 pandemic.
- Go and check out the free resources in French language here. And you will also find COVID-19 : Matériel pour le grand public there. On her website you can also subscribe for her French Newsletter/Infolettre.
- You might enjoy (re)listening to Ellen Quick in episode #45 How to decide: A Solution Focused approach to making better decisions with Ellen Quick.
- Also enjoy (re)listening to Brenda Zalter-Minden’s podcast episode #20 FROG or Forever REcognize Other’s Greatness: Interview with the greatness detective Brenda Zalter-Minden, where she shares a story of what did not work and what actually worked in appreciating her daughter.
- In episode #28 In the Land of Possibilities with Bill O’Hanlon a.o. we talked about how the deliberate use of the word AND might shift our experience.
- This HuffPost summarises Barbara Fredrickson’s 10 Positive Emotions.
- Find out more about SFBTA and the next conference in Las Vegas here >>
- Join our weekly Room for Confidence – boost your confidence, focus possibilities, join a dialogue about stories of hope, amplify what works, and connect with wonderful people from all around the globe:
- English: www.sfontour.com/stayconfident
- German: www.bleibzuversichtlich.com
- Check out our 4-week online course Translating Microanalysis of Face-to-Face Dialogue into Solution-Focused Practice starting on May 4, 2020. And come join our INFO ZOOM meetings on April 17, 2020, at 18.00/6 pm CEST and on April 18, 2020, at 16.00/4 pm CEST. FInd out more here: www.sfontour.com/microanalysis
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Friendpower is stronger than willpower. So, let’s inspire each other! Share your ideas and thoughts on what inspired you about our conversation with Brigitte and what differences this makes for you in your everyday life. Share as much detail as possible. Your story might be the one making a vital difference for someone else. Your thoughts and ideas matter and might encourage others to keep on going their SF journey. Share this podcast episode with your friends, clients or colleagues who you think might be inspired by this conversation. It could give them some practical ideas on how to apply Solution Focus in their daily life.Thank you!
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Dear Elfie, Dominik and Brigitte,
Thank you so much for another valuable podcast!
Wouldn’t it be great to make organisations who work for/with people who have to deal with cancer (also relatives and friends!!) aware of this podcast? I think it would be hugely helpful.
Thank you for singing! Will stay in my mind!
Uhmm, just a wild guess: Dominik do you want to be a camel? Going on and on and on, helping others on their journey while having (water) resources for yourself for a long long time … 🙂
For me, haha, I think I’d like to be a monkey, a chimpansee : joyful, elastic (would stand for me for creativity), social and taking care of others (they flea each other) through simple Solution Focus communication tools so they can live happily …
Thanks again for your great work for/with the SF community: making us feel connected, strong and make others, I’m sure, very welcome to join!
Smile, Ella