SFP 77 – Episode 77: It’s Not Your Life! Being Neutral in Solution Focused Conversations with Chris Iveson
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SFP 77 - Episode 77: It's Not Your Life! Being Neutral in Solution Focused Conversations with Chris Iveson
„I think if you are giving a summary you are highlighting things that you think, that come from your value base. So I would see it as an attempt to influence the client in what they choose to remember, in what they choose to think.“
„The more we got into detail, the more we stopped trying to push clients to go in a certain direction. I think that’s when we started to get briefer. (…) And I think this idea of neutrality just comes naturally from that. It’s realizing that the more we keep out of our client’s way, the more they’ll get on with business themselves.“
„During the session, I am trying not to influence the clients on the choices they take.”
„The best way I can be influential is by asking questions a client hasn’t been asked before, that leaves them to see the world in a way they haven’t seen it before. Which means that they can see possibilities they hadn’t known were there before.”
Show Notes
In today’s episode, we talk with Chris Iveson of BRIEF, about
- what fascinates him with Solution Focus and the BRIEF minimalism,
- how they developed lists, the best hopes question, the tomorrow question and much more,
- how they got into Solution Focus and started BRIEF,
- the value of trying to be neutral in conversations with our clients,
- the shift from „doing“ to „noticing“,
- what fascinates him about neutrality,
- keeping it simple and opening up possibilities for our clients,
- the magic of the miracle and the tomorrow question and detailed descriptions,
- not using presuppositional questions,
- helping clients to formulate detailed descriptions,
- trying to make questions content free,
- the work with Evan George and Harvey Ratner.
- The Challenge of the week: „Your next embrace with somebody you love: Notice how you show each other your mutual love in the way that you conduct the embrace, sort of microsecond by microsecond.“
Resources
- Check out the BRIEF website and the BRIEF Facebook page, a.o. with Evan’s Sunday posts.
- Read the BRIEF books:
- Brief Coaching – A Solution Focused Approach (Iveson, George, Ratner)
- Solution Focused Brief Therapy 100 key points and techniques (Ratner, George, Iveson)
- Brief Coaching With Children And Young People: A Solution Focused Approach (Ratner, Yusuf)
- You might also want to check out “Problem to Solution: Brief Therapy with Individuals and Families” (George, Iveson, Ratner); “Whose Life? Community Care of Older People and their Families” (Iveson).
- Here you can find out more about the BRIEF Summer School and other BRIEF courses.
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I haven’t heard the podcast yet ; just about to listen – solution focused thinking and approach to problem solving.i first heard about at an education course in West Sussex, in 2001,fascinating and tried to use it organically i life & work since.