SFP 11 – Language of Hope: Interview with Haesun Moon

SFP 11 – Language of Hope: Interview with Haesun Moon

SIMPLY FOCUS Podcast

SFP 11 – Episode 11: Language of Hope: Interview with Haesun Moon, Co-Director of the Canadian Centre for Brief Coaching

Simply Focus Podcast – Episode #11

Hosted by: Elfie Czerny & Dominik Godat | Intro: Bibiana Czerny  | Music: www.bensound.com 

SFP 11 - Episode 11: Language of Hope: Interview with Haesun Moon

by Elfie Czerny & Dominik Godat | Simply Focus Podcast | 42:42

“Teach in a way that people are becoming observers of their own work.”

„She looked at us and she said, ‘you know I am leaving today, (…) I just wanted to let you know that because of the conversations you had with me, I am dying with hope.’ (…) And I hear so many stories from this palliative team that is just doing amazing work, working with people who are at the last stages, using Solution Focused coaching or Solution Focused dialogue. (…) And now that algorithm is being implemented in all the hospitals, so that’s being used as a reference or guide.”

„The algorithm is kind of providing the direction of a conversation: So that your focus is finding out what they care about, what they want and what is important.“

Haesun Moon

Show Notes

In today’s episode, we talk with Haesun Moon, Co-Director of the Canadian Centre for Brief Coaching, about

  • what fascinates Haesun about Solution Focus
  • what fascinates her about microanalysis of face-to-face dialogue (To learn more about microanalysis check out episode number 10)
  • what differences microanalysis makes for her as a teacher and as a person
  • how microanalysis enhances «real life» learning – from day one on of the Solution Focused Coaching training
  • how dialogue cannot be divided and is the smallest unit to study
  • the importance of microanalysis for everyone in dialogic practice
  • the heart touching story of how «Language of Hope» came about
  • how this changed Haesun’s life
  • how she wants to see that dialogues change at home, at school and at work place
  • Haesun’s thesis and the way she studies «hope» in dialogue
  • how there is always another way of looking at things and how your choice of looking at dialogue is worthwile to observe
  • The Challenge of the week – Complaining exercise: You are pairing up, one person is complaining, the other person is listening for 5 solid minutes, then the listener gives the complaining person a feedback on what the person is caring about. Listen with the filter: what does that person really care about?
  • the BRIEFFEST

Resources

Joyful greetings from Tofino, BC!

Join the conversation

Let’s make a difference for others, share your insights, and ask great questions! And be in contact with Haesun. Ask questions and let Haesun and us know what inspired you. Friendpower is stronger than willpower. So, let’s inspire each other! Share your ideas and thoughts on what inspired you and what differences this makes for you in your everyday life. Share as much detail as possible. Your story might be the one making a vital difference for someone else. Your thoughts and ideas matter and might encourage others to keep on going their SF journey. Share this podcast episode with your friends, clients or colleagues who you think might be inspired by this conversation. It could give them some practical ideas on how to apply Solution Focus in their daily life.

Thank you!

Thank you for listening to our podcast. You are awesome! That you listen to our podcast makes a huge difference for us. Please let us know and get in touch with us: Comment below or send us a message and tell us what difference our podcast series makes for you.

Listen to more Simply Focus Podcast episodes:

SFP 68 – Inspiring the Next Generation: Unlearning and Unteaching Solution-Focused Practice with Dr. Biba Rebolj

SFP 68 – Inspiring the Next Generation: Unlearning and Unteaching Solution-Focused Practice with Dr. Biba Rebolj

SFP 67 – Building on What Works: A Different Kind of Conversation in School Counseling with Erin Cusanno

SFP 67 – Building on What Works: A Different Kind of Conversation in School Counseling with Erin Cusanno

SFP 66 – Towards Collectivising Solution-Focused Practice: Into the Community with Hope and the Ordinary in Action with Guy Shennan

SFP 66 – Towards Collectivising Solution-Focused Practice: Into the Community with Hope and the Ordinary in Action with Guy Shennan

SFP 65 – Nothing special about it – From Mental Health to End of Life and Grief Counseling with Joel K. Simon

SFP 65 – Nothing special about it – From Mental Health to End of Life and Grief Counseling with Joel K. Simon

SFP 64 – Applying Systemic Structural Constellations SySt® and Solution Focus with Ute Habenicht and Norbert Wandl

SFP 64 – Applying Systemic Structural Constellations SySt® and Solution Focus with Ute Habenicht and Norbert Wandl

SFP 63 – The Flip Side of Failing: Exploring Greatness with Sarah McVanel

SFP 63 – The Flip Side of Failing: Exploring Greatness with Sarah McVanel

SFP 62 – Connecting People: How do you do it? with Kati Hankovszky

SFP 62 – Connecting People: How do you do it? with Kati Hankovszky

SFP 61 – Crossing Paths: Solution Focused Practices and Community Building in Slovakia with Andrea Schovancová and Marek Koreň

SFP 61 – Crossing Paths: Solution Focused Practices and Community Building in Slovakia with Andrea Schovancová and Marek Koreň

SFP 60 – In Interaction: Debunking Myths of Communication with Jennifer Gerwing and Sara Healing

SFP 60 – In Interaction: Debunking Myths of Communication with Jennifer Gerwing and Sara Healing

SFP 59 – Supporting communication choices: How to use Solution Focused ideas in university teaching with Dr. David Weber

SFP 59 – Supporting communication choices: How to use Solution Focused ideas in university teaching with Dr. David Weber

SFP 58 – Celebrating the SFWorldDay: The Three Questions for a Good Life with Sébastien Vernieuwe and members of the Swiss Network for Solution Focused Work (NLA)

SFP 58 – Celebrating the SFWorldDay: The Three Questions for a Good Life with Sébastien Vernieuwe and members of the Swiss Network for Solution Focused Work (NLA)

SFP 57 – Our Perception matters: How to be minutely curious about clients being at their best with Dr. Adam Froerer

SFP 57 – Our Perception matters: How to be minutely curious about clients being at their best with Dr. Adam Froerer

SFP 56 – Don’t assume, ask: A unique conversation about common factors, respect, and keeping clients at the center with Prof. John Murphy

SFP 56 – Don’t assume, ask: A unique conversation about common factors, respect, and keeping clients at the center with Prof. John Murphy

SFP 55 – Practice-Based Evidence: Looking at what is effective in what we do with Prof. Frank Thomas

SFP 55 – Practice-Based Evidence: Looking at what is effective in what we do with Prof. Frank Thomas

SFP 54 – Wellness factor Solution Focus: A conversation about SF supervision with Marcella Stark

SFP 54 – Wellness factor Solution Focus: A conversation about SF supervision with Marcella Stark

SFP 53 – Solution-Focused Therapy with Children and Adolescents: Creative and Play-Based Approaches with Becky Taylor

SFP 53 – Solution-Focused Therapy with Children and Adolescents: Creative and Play-Based Approaches with Becky Taylor

SFP 52 – Happy Birthday Simply Focus Podcast: A meaningful conversation about our journey with John Murphy

SFP 52 – Happy Birthday Simply Focus Podcast: A meaningful conversation about our journey with John Murphy

SFP 51 – Putting differences to work: The Solution Focused Counseling Program at TCU with Becky Taylor, Frank Thomas, Marcella Stark and three of their PH.D. students

SFP 51 – Putting differences to work: The Solution Focused Counseling Program at TCU with Becky Taylor, Frank Thomas, Marcella Stark and three of their PH.D. students

SFP 50 – Being out there with Solution Focus: A hopeful perspective for the medical sector and sexual minorities with Benjamin Finlayson

SFP 50 – Being out there with Solution Focus: A hopeful perspective for the medical sector and sexual minorities with Benjamin Finlayson

SFP 49 – Living on the streets: A conversation about connection, humanity and the importance of community with Stacy Nelson

SFP 49 – Living on the streets: A conversation about connection, humanity and the importance of community with Stacy Nelson

SFP 48 – 19 Voices: Learnings and Inspirations from the SFU Conference in Taos

SFP 48 – 19 Voices: Learnings and Inspirations from the SFU Conference in Taos

SFP 47 – Solution Focused Recipes: From Trauma to Everyday Life with Yvonne Dolan

SFP 47 – Solution Focused Recipes: From Trauma to Everyday Life with Yvonne Dolan

SFP 46 – Solution Focus for every-body with Mark Mitchell

SFP 46 – Solution Focus for every-body with Mark Mitchell

SFP 45 – How to decide: A Solution Focused approach to making better decisions with Ellen Quick

SFP 45 – How to decide: A Solution Focused approach to making better decisions with Ellen Quick

SFP 44 – How to learn to have effective conversations with Sara Smock Jordan

SFP 44 – How to learn to have effective conversations with Sara Smock Jordan

SFP 43 – Beyond Goals, Beyond Habits: 5 Questions for your Reflections

SFP 43 – Beyond Goals, Beyond Habits: 5 Questions for your Reflections

SFP 42 – Diabetes Prevention: Kat & Gary Barclay working online with Solution Focus

SFP 42 – Diabetes Prevention: Kat & Gary Barclay working online with Solution Focus

SFP 41 – Solution Focus is an Evidence-Based Intervention: The Impact of Research for Solution Focus with Johnny S. Kim

SFP 41 – Solution Focus is an Evidence-Based Intervention: The Impact of Research for Solution Focus with Johnny S. Kim

SFP 40 – Systems Thinking: Dr. Thorana Nelson about Solution Focused Brief Therapy with Families

SFP 40 – Systems Thinking: Dr. Thorana Nelson about Solution Focused Brief Therapy with Families

SFP 39 – Creating Ripples: 7 questions every leader should ask with Simon Lee

SFP 39 – Creating Ripples: 7 questions every leader should ask with Simon Lee

SFP 38 – Exceptional Sessions: Animal-Assisted Solution Focused Brief Therapy & More with Teri Pichot

SFP 38 – Exceptional Sessions: Animal-Assisted Solution Focused Brief Therapy & More with Teri Pichot

SFP 37 – Training Solution Focus: Training Trainers with Brenda Zalter-Minden and Heather Fiske

SFP 37 – Training Solution Focus: Training Trainers with Brenda Zalter-Minden and Heather Fiske

SFP 36 – Deliberate Practice: Reflecting Solution Focused Development with Scott D. Miller

SFP 36 – Deliberate Practice: Reflecting Solution Focused Development with Scott D. Miller

SFP 35 – Observing Solution Focus: A conversation with Gale Miller about his time at BFTC

SFP 35 – Observing Solution Focus: A conversation with Gale Miller about his time at BFTC

SFP 34 – Back to the roots: A conversation about the beginning of Solution Focus with Eve Lipchik

SFP 34 – Back to the roots: A conversation about the beginning of Solution Focus with Eve Lipchik

SFP 33 – Surfing the waves: Sinking into the joy with Angela Knox

SFP 33 – Surfing the waves: Sinking into the joy with Angela Knox

SFP 32 – Small steps count: A conversation about SF parenting, SF in Japan and more with Keiko Yoneyama

SFP 32 – Small steps count: A conversation about SF parenting, SF in Japan and more with Keiko Yoneyama

SFP 31 – Fascination Solution Focus

SFP 31 – Fascination Solution Focus

SFP 30 – SF Leadership: Everyday interactions that make a difference with Dominik Godat

SFP 30 – SF Leadership: Everyday interactions that make a difference with Dominik Godat

SFP 29 – Words arise out of Silence: A Poetic Conversation with Dvorah Simon

SFP 29 – Words arise out of Silence: A Poetic Conversation with Dvorah Simon

SFP 28 – In the Land of Possibilities with Bill O’Hanlon

SFP 28 – In the Land of Possibilities with Bill O’Hanlon

SFP 27 – Hope in Action: A Conversation with Heather Fiske about Solution Focused Suicide Prevention

SFP 27 – Hope in Action: A Conversation with Heather Fiske about Solution Focused Suicide Prevention

SFP 26 – Celebrating Half a Year SIMPLY FOCUS Podcast with That Reminds Me Of The Following Story by Hannes Couvreur

SFP 26 – Celebrating Half a Year SIMPLY FOCUS Podcast with That Reminds Me Of The Following Story by Hannes Couvreur

SFP 25 – Seeing Opportunities – Pull the Golden Ribbon: Interview with Brigitte Lavoie

SFP 25 – Seeing Opportunities – Pull the Golden Ribbon: Interview with Brigitte Lavoie

SFP 24 – Being in Love with Love: Interview with Elliott Connie

SFP 24 – Being in Love with Love: Interview with Elliott Connie

SFP 23 – What directions do you choose in your conversations? – A face-to-face dialogue with Dr. Peter de Jong

SFP 23 – What directions do you choose in your conversations? – A face-to-face dialogue with Dr. Peter de Jong

SFP 22 – Energized: Interview with Bob Faw about energizing ourselves and others

SFP 22 – Energized: Interview with Bob Faw about energizing ourselves and others

SFP 21 – Living in Sunday Right Away: Interview with Laura Cole about her first three weeks with SF

SFP 21 – Living in Sunday Right Away: Interview with Laura Cole about her first three weeks with SF

SFP 20 – Frog or Forever Recognize Other’s Greatness: Interview with Brenda Zalter-Minden

SFP 20 – Frog or Forever Recognize Other’s Greatness: Interview with Brenda Zalter-Minden

SFP 19 – At the Round Table with Alan Kay: Solution Focused Applications

SFP 19 – At the Round Table with Alan Kay: Solution Focused Applications

SFP 18 – Learning together: Teaching Solution Focus at Brieffest with Bo Yon Koh and Haesun Moon

SFP 18 – Learning together: Teaching Solution Focus at Brieffest with Bo Yon Koh and Haesun Moon

SFP 17 – In Tune with Solution Focus: Interview with Dr. Bo Yon Koh

SFP 17 – In Tune with Solution Focus: Interview with Dr. Bo Yon Koh

SFP 16 – Celebrating one year on the road with Elfie Czerny & Dominik Godat & Bibiana

SFP 16 – Celebrating one year on the road with Elfie Czerny & Dominik Godat & Bibiana

SFP 15 – Inspiring others again: A reflection with Elfie Czerny & Dominik Godat

SFP 15 – Inspiring others again: A reflection with Elfie Czerny & Dominik Godat

SFP 14 – Inspiring others: A reflection with Elfie Czerny & Dominik Godat

SFP 14 – Inspiring others: A reflection with Elfie Czerny & Dominik Godat

SFP 13 – Solution Focus at Work: Interview with Victor Nelson

SFP 13 – Solution Focus at Work: Interview with Victor Nelson

SFP 12 – Interactional Relationships: Interview with Dr. Thorana Nelson

SFP 12 – Interactional Relationships: Interview with Dr. Thorana Nelson

SFP 11 – Language of Hope: Interview with Haesun Moon

SFP 11 – Language of Hope: Interview with Haesun Moon

SFP 10 – Seeing Interaction: Interview with Janet Beavin Bavelas

SFP 10 – Seeing Interaction: Interview with Janet Beavin Bavelas

SFP 9 – Persistent in being curios: Interview with Dr. Stephen Langer about Solution Focused Brief Therapy

SFP 9 – Persistent in being curios: Interview with Dr. Stephen Langer about Solution Focused Brief Therapy

SFP 8 – Let’s play…: Interview with Pamela K. King

SFP 8 – Let’s play…: Interview with Pamela K. King

SFP 7 – Effective Leadership with Solution Focus: Interview with Monica Rotner

SFP 7 – Effective Leadership with Solution Focus: Interview with Monica Rotner

SFP 6 – Solution Focused Listening

SFP 6 – Solution Focused Listening

SFP 5 – The GREAT relationship: Interview with Jonathan D. Sherman

SFP 5 – The GREAT relationship: Interview with Jonathan D. Sherman

SFP 4 – The art of asking great Solution Focused questions

SFP 4 – The art of asking great Solution Focused questions

SFP 3 – Solution Focus makes a difference

SFP 3 – Solution Focus makes a difference

SFP 2 – Amplifying useful change in an ever changing world

SFP 2 – Amplifying useful change in an ever changing world

SFP 1 – The Simply Focus Podcast

SFP 1 – The Simply Focus Podcast

SFP 10 – Seeing Interaction: Interview with Janet Beavin Bavelas

SFP 10 – Seeing Interaction: Interview with Janet Beavin Bavelas

SIMPLY FOCUS Podcast

SFP 10 – Episode 10: Seeing Interaction: Interview with Janet Beavin Bavelas, Ph.D., F.R.S.C., Professor Emeritus of Psychology at the University of Victoria

Simply Focus Podcast – Episode #10

Hosted by: Elfie Czerny & Dominik Godat | Intro: Bibiana Czerny | Music: www.bensound.com 

SFP 10 - Episode 10: Seeing Interaction: Interview with Janet Beavin Bavelas

by Elfie Czerny & Dominik Godat | Simply Focus Podcast | 41:48

“So, it’s really a matter of choosing a focus. (…) And once you do that, it’s right there. And people can see it pretty quickly, so it’s really a matter of getting the other stuff out of the way.”

“There are two things that you have to do: One is to see interaction and not go into people’s heads. But the other is the timescale (…) you see how precise and fast it is (…) what goes on is regularly less than simple reaction time. (…) It really is being able to see it in slow motion.”  

Janet Beavin Bavelas

Show Notes

In today’s episode, we talk with Janet Beavin Bavelas, Ph.D., F.R.S.C., Professor Emeritus of Psychology at the University of Victoria, about

  • what fascinates Janet about Solution Focus
  • what fascinates Janet about microanalysis (moment-by-moment analysis) of face-to-face dialogues
  • how she stayed curious to unfold and demystify all these things around communication
  • what helped Janet to focus on the interaction even in times when people mainly focused on inner concepts and to start her career as a scientist on that
  • what she and her team see and see differently than others when they look at face-to-face dialogues moment-by-moment in microanalysis
  • what calibration is, what is happening there and how that could be important for everyday conversations and for Solution Focus
  • what changed for Janet since they wrote “Pragmatics of Human Communication” more than 50 years ago
  • hand gestures, facial gestures and gaze and common misunderstandings around these co-speech gestures
  • what the overall goal of her research was and is
  • The challenge of the week: Look at one and the same conversation (e.g. this one) in two ways: First, look at only one person and start thinking hard about what’s going on in the person’s mind, look at what the person is feeling, why she/he is doing what she/he does, what the person is thinking, focus completely on the individual. Go and get a coffee and afterwards look at the same conversation again. Look only at what’s happening between the people. What you are looking for has to be what somebody does observably – physically or vocally – that the other person would notice and that was aimed at the other person, that would effect the other person.

Resources

  • Visit Janet Beavin Bavelas’ website to learn more about studying face-to-face dialogue and about Janet and her teams precious work.
  • Pragmatics of Human Communication: A Study of Interactional Patterns, Pathologies and Paradoxes. by Paul Watzlawick, Janet Beavin Bavelas, Don D. Jackson (1967)
  • John Weakland – mentor of Janet Bavelas, Steve de Shazer and Insoo Kim Berg – was one of the founders of brief and family psychotherapy. He was a Senior Research Fellow at the Mental Research Institute (MRI) in Palo Alto, founding member and Co-Director of MRI’s Brief Therapy Center (along with Paul Watzlawick and Dick Fisch), and a Clinical Associate Professor Emeritus in the Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences at the Stanford University School of Medicine.
  • ‘It’s not really probably your first memory. It’s the one you devoted some effort to remember.’ Janet quoting Arthur Rank
  • Don D. Jackson (1958): Guilt and the control of pleasure in schizoid personalities.
  • ELAN is a professional tool for the creation of complex annotations on video and audio resources.
  • Herbert H. Clark, Stanford; Theory of common ground.
  • Here you can find more about the current work on calibration by Janet Bavelas, Jennifer Gerwing & Sara Healing.

Inspiring face-to-face encounters with Janet and her lovely Newfoundland dog on Vancouver Island, BC!

Join the conversation

Let’s make a difference for others, share your insights, and ask great questions! Let us know what inspired you and how the challenge went for you. Friendpower is stronger than willpower. So, let’s inspire each other! Share your ideas and thoughts on what inspired you and what differences this makes for you in your everyday life. Share as much detail as possible. Your story might be the one making a vital difference for someone else. Your thoughts and ideas matter and might encourage others to keep on going their SF journey. Share this podcast episode with your friends, clients or colleagues who you think might be inspired by this conversation. It could give them some practical ideas on how to apply Solution Focus in their daily life.

Thank you!

Thank you for listening to our podcast. You are awesome! That you listen to our podcast makes a huge difference for us. Please let us know and get in touch with us: Comment below or send us a message and tell us what difference our podcast series makes for you.

Listen to more Simply Focus Podcast episodes:

SFP 68 – Inspiring the Next Generation: Unlearning and Unteaching Solution-Focused Practice with Dr. Biba Rebolj

SFP 68 – Inspiring the Next Generation: Unlearning and Unteaching Solution-Focused Practice with Dr. Biba Rebolj

SFP 67 – Building on What Works: A Different Kind of Conversation in School Counseling with Erin Cusanno

SFP 67 – Building on What Works: A Different Kind of Conversation in School Counseling with Erin Cusanno

SFP 66 – Towards Collectivising Solution-Focused Practice: Into the Community with Hope and the Ordinary in Action with Guy Shennan

SFP 66 – Towards Collectivising Solution-Focused Practice: Into the Community with Hope and the Ordinary in Action with Guy Shennan

SFP 65 – Nothing special about it – From Mental Health to End of Life and Grief Counseling with Joel K. Simon

SFP 65 – Nothing special about it – From Mental Health to End of Life and Grief Counseling with Joel K. Simon

SFP 64 – Applying Systemic Structural Constellations SySt® and Solution Focus with Ute Habenicht and Norbert Wandl

SFP 64 – Applying Systemic Structural Constellations SySt® and Solution Focus with Ute Habenicht and Norbert Wandl

SFP 63 – The Flip Side of Failing: Exploring Greatness with Sarah McVanel

SFP 63 – The Flip Side of Failing: Exploring Greatness with Sarah McVanel

SFP 62 – Connecting People: How do you do it? with Kati Hankovszky

SFP 62 – Connecting People: How do you do it? with Kati Hankovszky

SFP 61 – Crossing Paths: Solution Focused Practices and Community Building in Slovakia with Andrea Schovancová and Marek Koreň

SFP 61 – Crossing Paths: Solution Focused Practices and Community Building in Slovakia with Andrea Schovancová and Marek Koreň

SFP 60 – In Interaction: Debunking Myths of Communication with Jennifer Gerwing and Sara Healing

SFP 60 – In Interaction: Debunking Myths of Communication with Jennifer Gerwing and Sara Healing

SFP 59 – Supporting communication choices: How to use Solution Focused ideas in university teaching with Dr. David Weber

SFP 59 – Supporting communication choices: How to use Solution Focused ideas in university teaching with Dr. David Weber

SFP 58 – Celebrating the SFWorldDay: The Three Questions for a Good Life with Sébastien Vernieuwe and members of the Swiss Network for Solution Focused Work (NLA)

SFP 58 – Celebrating the SFWorldDay: The Three Questions for a Good Life with Sébastien Vernieuwe and members of the Swiss Network for Solution Focused Work (NLA)

SFP 57 – Our Perception matters: How to be minutely curious about clients being at their best with Dr. Adam Froerer

SFP 57 – Our Perception matters: How to be minutely curious about clients being at their best with Dr. Adam Froerer

SFP 56 – Don’t assume, ask: A unique conversation about common factors, respect, and keeping clients at the center with Prof. John Murphy

SFP 56 – Don’t assume, ask: A unique conversation about common factors, respect, and keeping clients at the center with Prof. John Murphy

SFP 55 – Practice-Based Evidence: Looking at what is effective in what we do with Prof. Frank Thomas

SFP 55 – Practice-Based Evidence: Looking at what is effective in what we do with Prof. Frank Thomas

SFP 54 – Wellness factor Solution Focus: A conversation about SF supervision with Marcella Stark

SFP 54 – Wellness factor Solution Focus: A conversation about SF supervision with Marcella Stark

SFP 53 – Solution-Focused Therapy with Children and Adolescents: Creative and Play-Based Approaches with Becky Taylor

SFP 53 – Solution-Focused Therapy with Children and Adolescents: Creative and Play-Based Approaches with Becky Taylor

SFP 52 – Happy Birthday Simply Focus Podcast: A meaningful conversation about our journey with John Murphy

SFP 52 – Happy Birthday Simply Focus Podcast: A meaningful conversation about our journey with John Murphy

SFP 51 – Putting differences to work: The Solution Focused Counseling Program at TCU with Becky Taylor, Frank Thomas, Marcella Stark and three of their PH.D. students

SFP 51 – Putting differences to work: The Solution Focused Counseling Program at TCU with Becky Taylor, Frank Thomas, Marcella Stark and three of their PH.D. students

SFP 50 – Being out there with Solution Focus: A hopeful perspective for the medical sector and sexual minorities with Benjamin Finlayson

SFP 50 – Being out there with Solution Focus: A hopeful perspective for the medical sector and sexual minorities with Benjamin Finlayson

SFP 49 – Living on the streets: A conversation about connection, humanity and the importance of community with Stacy Nelson

SFP 49 – Living on the streets: A conversation about connection, humanity and the importance of community with Stacy Nelson

SFP 48 – 19 Voices: Learnings and Inspirations from the SFU Conference in Taos

SFP 48 – 19 Voices: Learnings and Inspirations from the SFU Conference in Taos

SFP 47 – Solution Focused Recipes: From Trauma to Everyday Life with Yvonne Dolan

SFP 47 – Solution Focused Recipes: From Trauma to Everyday Life with Yvonne Dolan

SFP 46 – Solution Focus for every-body with Mark Mitchell

SFP 46 – Solution Focus for every-body with Mark Mitchell

SFP 45 – How to decide: A Solution Focused approach to making better decisions with Ellen Quick

SFP 45 – How to decide: A Solution Focused approach to making better decisions with Ellen Quick

SFP 44 – How to learn to have effective conversations with Sara Smock Jordan

SFP 44 – How to learn to have effective conversations with Sara Smock Jordan

SFP 43 – Beyond Goals, Beyond Habits: 5 Questions for your Reflections

SFP 43 – Beyond Goals, Beyond Habits: 5 Questions for your Reflections

SFP 42 – Diabetes Prevention: Kat & Gary Barclay working online with Solution Focus

SFP 42 – Diabetes Prevention: Kat & Gary Barclay working online with Solution Focus

SFP 41 – Solution Focus is an Evidence-Based Intervention: The Impact of Research for Solution Focus with Johnny S. Kim

SFP 41 – Solution Focus is an Evidence-Based Intervention: The Impact of Research for Solution Focus with Johnny S. Kim

SFP 40 – Systems Thinking: Dr. Thorana Nelson about Solution Focused Brief Therapy with Families

SFP 40 – Systems Thinking: Dr. Thorana Nelson about Solution Focused Brief Therapy with Families

SFP 39 – Creating Ripples: 7 questions every leader should ask with Simon Lee

SFP 39 – Creating Ripples: 7 questions every leader should ask with Simon Lee

SFP 38 – Exceptional Sessions: Animal-Assisted Solution Focused Brief Therapy & More with Teri Pichot

SFP 38 – Exceptional Sessions: Animal-Assisted Solution Focused Brief Therapy & More with Teri Pichot

SFP 37 – Training Solution Focus: Training Trainers with Brenda Zalter-Minden and Heather Fiske

SFP 37 – Training Solution Focus: Training Trainers with Brenda Zalter-Minden and Heather Fiske

SFP 36 – Deliberate Practice: Reflecting Solution Focused Development with Scott D. Miller

SFP 36 – Deliberate Practice: Reflecting Solution Focused Development with Scott D. Miller

SFP 35 – Observing Solution Focus: A conversation with Gale Miller about his time at BFTC

SFP 35 – Observing Solution Focus: A conversation with Gale Miller about his time at BFTC

SFP 34 – Back to the roots: A conversation about the beginning of Solution Focus with Eve Lipchik

SFP 34 – Back to the roots: A conversation about the beginning of Solution Focus with Eve Lipchik

SFP 33 – Surfing the waves: Sinking into the joy with Angela Knox

SFP 33 – Surfing the waves: Sinking into the joy with Angela Knox

SFP 32 – Small steps count: A conversation about SF parenting, SF in Japan and more with Keiko Yoneyama

SFP 32 – Small steps count: A conversation about SF parenting, SF in Japan and more with Keiko Yoneyama

SFP 31 – Fascination Solution Focus

SFP 31 – Fascination Solution Focus

SFP 30 – SF Leadership: Everyday interactions that make a difference with Dominik Godat

SFP 30 – SF Leadership: Everyday interactions that make a difference with Dominik Godat

SFP 29 – Words arise out of Silence: A Poetic Conversation with Dvorah Simon

SFP 29 – Words arise out of Silence: A Poetic Conversation with Dvorah Simon

SFP 28 – In the Land of Possibilities with Bill O’Hanlon

SFP 28 – In the Land of Possibilities with Bill O’Hanlon

SFP 27 – Hope in Action: A Conversation with Heather Fiske about Solution Focused Suicide Prevention

SFP 27 – Hope in Action: A Conversation with Heather Fiske about Solution Focused Suicide Prevention

SFP 26 – Celebrating Half a Year SIMPLY FOCUS Podcast with That Reminds Me Of The Following Story by Hannes Couvreur

SFP 26 – Celebrating Half a Year SIMPLY FOCUS Podcast with That Reminds Me Of The Following Story by Hannes Couvreur

SFP 25 – Seeing Opportunities – Pull the Golden Ribbon: Interview with Brigitte Lavoie

SFP 25 – Seeing Opportunities – Pull the Golden Ribbon: Interview with Brigitte Lavoie

SFP 24 – Being in Love with Love: Interview with Elliott Connie

SFP 24 – Being in Love with Love: Interview with Elliott Connie

SFP 23 – What directions do you choose in your conversations? – A face-to-face dialogue with Dr. Peter de Jong

SFP 23 – What directions do you choose in your conversations? – A face-to-face dialogue with Dr. Peter de Jong

SFP 22 – Energized: Interview with Bob Faw about energizing ourselves and others

SFP 22 – Energized: Interview with Bob Faw about energizing ourselves and others

SFP 21 – Living in Sunday Right Away: Interview with Laura Cole about her first three weeks with SF

SFP 21 – Living in Sunday Right Away: Interview with Laura Cole about her first three weeks with SF

SFP 20 – Frog or Forever Recognize Other’s Greatness: Interview with Brenda Zalter-Minden

SFP 20 – Frog or Forever Recognize Other’s Greatness: Interview with Brenda Zalter-Minden

SFP 19 – At the Round Table with Alan Kay: Solution Focused Applications

SFP 19 – At the Round Table with Alan Kay: Solution Focused Applications

SFP 18 – Learning together: Teaching Solution Focus at Brieffest with Bo Yon Koh and Haesun Moon

SFP 18 – Learning together: Teaching Solution Focus at Brieffest with Bo Yon Koh and Haesun Moon

SFP 17 – In Tune with Solution Focus: Interview with Dr. Bo Yon Koh

SFP 17 – In Tune with Solution Focus: Interview with Dr. Bo Yon Koh

SFP 16 – Celebrating one year on the road with Elfie Czerny & Dominik Godat & Bibiana

SFP 16 – Celebrating one year on the road with Elfie Czerny & Dominik Godat & Bibiana

SFP 15 – Inspiring others again: A reflection with Elfie Czerny & Dominik Godat

SFP 15 – Inspiring others again: A reflection with Elfie Czerny & Dominik Godat

SFP 14 – Inspiring others: A reflection with Elfie Czerny & Dominik Godat

SFP 14 – Inspiring others: A reflection with Elfie Czerny & Dominik Godat

SFP 13 – Solution Focus at Work: Interview with Victor Nelson

SFP 13 – Solution Focus at Work: Interview with Victor Nelson

SFP 12 – Interactional Relationships: Interview with Dr. Thorana Nelson

SFP 12 – Interactional Relationships: Interview with Dr. Thorana Nelson

SFP 11 – Language of Hope: Interview with Haesun Moon

SFP 11 – Language of Hope: Interview with Haesun Moon

SFP 10 – Seeing Interaction: Interview with Janet Beavin Bavelas

SFP 10 – Seeing Interaction: Interview with Janet Beavin Bavelas

SFP 9 – Persistent in being curios: Interview with Dr. Stephen Langer about Solution Focused Brief Therapy

SFP 9 – Persistent in being curios: Interview with Dr. Stephen Langer about Solution Focused Brief Therapy

SFP 8 – Let’s play…: Interview with Pamela K. King

SFP 8 – Let’s play…: Interview with Pamela K. King

SFP 7 – Effective Leadership with Solution Focus: Interview with Monica Rotner

SFP 7 – Effective Leadership with Solution Focus: Interview with Monica Rotner

SFP 6 – Solution Focused Listening

SFP 6 – Solution Focused Listening

SFP 5 – The GREAT relationship: Interview with Jonathan D. Sherman

SFP 5 – The GREAT relationship: Interview with Jonathan D. Sherman

SFP 4 – The art of asking great Solution Focused questions

SFP 4 – The art of asking great Solution Focused questions

SFP 3 – Solution Focus makes a difference

SFP 3 – Solution Focus makes a difference

SFP 2 – Amplifying useful change in an ever changing world

SFP 2 – Amplifying useful change in an ever changing world

SFP 1 – The Simply Focus Podcast

SFP 1 – The Simply Focus Podcast

SFP 6 – Solution Focused Listening

SFP 6 – Solution Focused Listening

SIMPLY FOCUS Podcast

SFP 6 – Episode 6: Solution Focused Listening

Simply Focus Podcast – Episode #6

Hosted by: Elfie Czerny & Dominik Godat | Intro: Bibiana Czerny & Tim King |Music: www.bensound.com 

SFP 6 - Episode 6: Solution Focused Listening

by Elfie Czerny & Dominik Godat | Simply Focus Podcast | 24:59

“Seeing this study shows so much about our influence as listeners and how important it is, if we want to bring out the greatness in other people, to truly listen for their brilliance. The brilliance is here. Always.”

Elfie Czerny

„You co-narrate the story that the other person tells with your listening. So your listening makes a difference. Your listening matters. And if you want to hear good stories listen attentively. And it will be much more easy for the other person to tell a good story.

Dominik Godat

Show Notes

In today’s episode, we talk about

  • what we love about the topic “listening”.
  • what differences it makes when we listen for the brilliance of people.
  • the “T study” that shows that as listeners we are co-narrators: when we listen attentively people are much better storytellers.
  • Nancy Kline’s time to think and how a good thinking environment produces better results.
  • how we do the “thinking rounds” and the differences this makes in our relationship and family life.
  • how in Solution Focused Listening we
  • how listen – select – build can be used in everyday conversations or how Dominik’s mum found 20 things that are already going in the right direction.
  • The weekly challenge: Chose one conversation each day where you decide to listen in a Solution Focused way for the brilliance of your conversation partner. After the conversation take a few minutes and discover what differences this made.

Resources

Join the conversation

Let’s make a difference for others, share your insights, and ask great questions! Friendpower is stronger than willpower. So, let’s inspire each other! Share your ideas and thoughts on what inspired you and what differences this makes for you in your everyday life. Share as much detail as possible. Your story might be the one making a vital difference for someone else. Your thoughts and ideas matter and might encourage others to keep on going their SF journey. If you have friends, clients or colleagues who you think might be inspired by this conversation, share this podcast episode. It could give them some practical ideas on how to apply Solution Focus in their daily work and life.

Thank you!

Thank you for listening to our podcast. You are awesome! That you listen to our podcast makes a huge difference for us. Please let us know and get in touch with us: Comment below or send us a message and tell us what difference our podcast series makes for you.

It was so great to spend time with these two amazing people! Thank you Pamela & Tim King!

Listen to more Simply Focus Podcast episodes:

SFP 68 – Inspiring the Next Generation: Unlearning and Unteaching Solution-Focused Practice with Dr. Biba Rebolj

SFP 68 – Inspiring the Next Generation: Unlearning and Unteaching Solution-Focused Practice with Dr. Biba Rebolj

SFP 67 – Building on What Works: A Different Kind of Conversation in School Counseling with Erin Cusanno

SFP 67 – Building on What Works: A Different Kind of Conversation in School Counseling with Erin Cusanno

SFP 66 – Towards Collectivising Solution-Focused Practice: Into the Community with Hope and the Ordinary in Action with Guy Shennan

SFP 66 – Towards Collectivising Solution-Focused Practice: Into the Community with Hope and the Ordinary in Action with Guy Shennan

SFP 65 – Nothing special about it – From Mental Health to End of Life and Grief Counseling with Joel K. Simon

SFP 65 – Nothing special about it – From Mental Health to End of Life and Grief Counseling with Joel K. Simon

SFP 64 – Applying Systemic Structural Constellations SySt® and Solution Focus with Ute Habenicht and Norbert Wandl

SFP 64 – Applying Systemic Structural Constellations SySt® and Solution Focus with Ute Habenicht and Norbert Wandl

SFP 63 – The Flip Side of Failing: Exploring Greatness with Sarah McVanel

SFP 63 – The Flip Side of Failing: Exploring Greatness with Sarah McVanel

SFP 62 – Connecting People: How do you do it? with Kati Hankovszky

SFP 62 – Connecting People: How do you do it? with Kati Hankovszky

SFP 61 – Crossing Paths: Solution Focused Practices and Community Building in Slovakia with Andrea Schovancová and Marek Koreň

SFP 61 – Crossing Paths: Solution Focused Practices and Community Building in Slovakia with Andrea Schovancová and Marek Koreň

SFP 60 – In Interaction: Debunking Myths of Communication with Jennifer Gerwing and Sara Healing

SFP 60 – In Interaction: Debunking Myths of Communication with Jennifer Gerwing and Sara Healing

SFP 59 – Supporting communication choices: How to use Solution Focused ideas in university teaching with Dr. David Weber

SFP 59 – Supporting communication choices: How to use Solution Focused ideas in university teaching with Dr. David Weber

SFP 58 – Celebrating the SFWorldDay: The Three Questions for a Good Life with Sébastien Vernieuwe and members of the Swiss Network for Solution Focused Work (NLA)

SFP 58 – Celebrating the SFWorldDay: The Three Questions for a Good Life with Sébastien Vernieuwe and members of the Swiss Network for Solution Focused Work (NLA)

SFP 57 – Our Perception matters: How to be minutely curious about clients being at their best with Dr. Adam Froerer

SFP 57 – Our Perception matters: How to be minutely curious about clients being at their best with Dr. Adam Froerer

SFP 56 – Don’t assume, ask: A unique conversation about common factors, respect, and keeping clients at the center with Prof. John Murphy

SFP 56 – Don’t assume, ask: A unique conversation about common factors, respect, and keeping clients at the center with Prof. John Murphy

SFP 55 – Practice-Based Evidence: Looking at what is effective in what we do with Prof. Frank Thomas

SFP 55 – Practice-Based Evidence: Looking at what is effective in what we do with Prof. Frank Thomas

SFP 54 – Wellness factor Solution Focus: A conversation about SF supervision with Marcella Stark

SFP 54 – Wellness factor Solution Focus: A conversation about SF supervision with Marcella Stark

SFP 53 – Solution-Focused Therapy with Children and Adolescents: Creative and Play-Based Approaches with Becky Taylor

SFP 53 – Solution-Focused Therapy with Children and Adolescents: Creative and Play-Based Approaches with Becky Taylor

SFP 52 – Happy Birthday Simply Focus Podcast: A meaningful conversation about our journey with John Murphy

SFP 52 – Happy Birthday Simply Focus Podcast: A meaningful conversation about our journey with John Murphy

SFP 51 – Putting differences to work: The Solution Focused Counseling Program at TCU with Becky Taylor, Frank Thomas, Marcella Stark and three of their PH.D. students

SFP 51 – Putting differences to work: The Solution Focused Counseling Program at TCU with Becky Taylor, Frank Thomas, Marcella Stark and three of their PH.D. students

SFP 50 – Being out there with Solution Focus: A hopeful perspective for the medical sector and sexual minorities with Benjamin Finlayson

SFP 50 – Being out there with Solution Focus: A hopeful perspective for the medical sector and sexual minorities with Benjamin Finlayson

SFP 49 – Living on the streets: A conversation about connection, humanity and the importance of community with Stacy Nelson

SFP 49 – Living on the streets: A conversation about connection, humanity and the importance of community with Stacy Nelson

SFP 48 – 19 Voices: Learnings and Inspirations from the SFU Conference in Taos

SFP 48 – 19 Voices: Learnings and Inspirations from the SFU Conference in Taos

SFP 47 – Solution Focused Recipes: From Trauma to Everyday Life with Yvonne Dolan

SFP 47 – Solution Focused Recipes: From Trauma to Everyday Life with Yvonne Dolan

SFP 46 – Solution Focus for every-body with Mark Mitchell

SFP 46 – Solution Focus for every-body with Mark Mitchell

SFP 45 – How to decide: A Solution Focused approach to making better decisions with Ellen Quick

SFP 45 – How to decide: A Solution Focused approach to making better decisions with Ellen Quick

SFP 44 – How to learn to have effective conversations with Sara Smock Jordan

SFP 44 – How to learn to have effective conversations with Sara Smock Jordan

SFP 43 – Beyond Goals, Beyond Habits: 5 Questions for your Reflections

SFP 43 – Beyond Goals, Beyond Habits: 5 Questions for your Reflections

SFP 42 – Diabetes Prevention: Kat & Gary Barclay working online with Solution Focus

SFP 42 – Diabetes Prevention: Kat & Gary Barclay working online with Solution Focus

SFP 41 – Solution Focus is an Evidence-Based Intervention: The Impact of Research for Solution Focus with Johnny S. Kim

SFP 41 – Solution Focus is an Evidence-Based Intervention: The Impact of Research for Solution Focus with Johnny S. Kim

SFP 40 – Systems Thinking: Dr. Thorana Nelson about Solution Focused Brief Therapy with Families

SFP 40 – Systems Thinking: Dr. Thorana Nelson about Solution Focused Brief Therapy with Families

SFP 39 – Creating Ripples: 7 questions every leader should ask with Simon Lee

SFP 39 – Creating Ripples: 7 questions every leader should ask with Simon Lee

SFP 38 – Exceptional Sessions: Animal-Assisted Solution Focused Brief Therapy & More with Teri Pichot

SFP 38 – Exceptional Sessions: Animal-Assisted Solution Focused Brief Therapy & More with Teri Pichot

SFP 37 – Training Solution Focus: Training Trainers with Brenda Zalter-Minden and Heather Fiske

SFP 37 – Training Solution Focus: Training Trainers with Brenda Zalter-Minden and Heather Fiske

SFP 36 – Deliberate Practice: Reflecting Solution Focused Development with Scott D. Miller

SFP 36 – Deliberate Practice: Reflecting Solution Focused Development with Scott D. Miller

SFP 35 – Observing Solution Focus: A conversation with Gale Miller about his time at BFTC

SFP 35 – Observing Solution Focus: A conversation with Gale Miller about his time at BFTC

SFP 34 – Back to the roots: A conversation about the beginning of Solution Focus with Eve Lipchik

SFP 34 – Back to the roots: A conversation about the beginning of Solution Focus with Eve Lipchik

SFP 33 – Surfing the waves: Sinking into the joy with Angela Knox

SFP 33 – Surfing the waves: Sinking into the joy with Angela Knox

SFP 32 – Small steps count: A conversation about SF parenting, SF in Japan and more with Keiko Yoneyama

SFP 32 – Small steps count: A conversation about SF parenting, SF in Japan and more with Keiko Yoneyama

SFP 31 – Fascination Solution Focus

SFP 31 – Fascination Solution Focus

SFP 30 – SF Leadership: Everyday interactions that make a difference with Dominik Godat

SFP 30 – SF Leadership: Everyday interactions that make a difference with Dominik Godat

SFP 29 – Words arise out of Silence: A Poetic Conversation with Dvorah Simon

SFP 29 – Words arise out of Silence: A Poetic Conversation with Dvorah Simon

SFP 28 – In the Land of Possibilities with Bill O’Hanlon

SFP 28 – In the Land of Possibilities with Bill O’Hanlon

SFP 27 – Hope in Action: A Conversation with Heather Fiske about Solution Focused Suicide Prevention

SFP 27 – Hope in Action: A Conversation with Heather Fiske about Solution Focused Suicide Prevention

SFP 26 – Celebrating Half a Year SIMPLY FOCUS Podcast with That Reminds Me Of The Following Story by Hannes Couvreur

SFP 26 – Celebrating Half a Year SIMPLY FOCUS Podcast with That Reminds Me Of The Following Story by Hannes Couvreur

SFP 25 – Seeing Opportunities – Pull the Golden Ribbon: Interview with Brigitte Lavoie

SFP 25 – Seeing Opportunities – Pull the Golden Ribbon: Interview with Brigitte Lavoie

SFP 24 – Being in Love with Love: Interview with Elliott Connie

SFP 24 – Being in Love with Love: Interview with Elliott Connie

SFP 23 – What directions do you choose in your conversations? – A face-to-face dialogue with Dr. Peter de Jong

SFP 23 – What directions do you choose in your conversations? – A face-to-face dialogue with Dr. Peter de Jong

SFP 22 – Energized: Interview with Bob Faw about energizing ourselves and others

SFP 22 – Energized: Interview with Bob Faw about energizing ourselves and others

SFP 21 – Living in Sunday Right Away: Interview with Laura Cole about her first three weeks with SF

SFP 21 – Living in Sunday Right Away: Interview with Laura Cole about her first three weeks with SF

SFP 20 – Frog or Forever Recognize Other’s Greatness: Interview with Brenda Zalter-Minden

SFP 20 – Frog or Forever Recognize Other’s Greatness: Interview with Brenda Zalter-Minden

SFP 19 – At the Round Table with Alan Kay: Solution Focused Applications

SFP 19 – At the Round Table with Alan Kay: Solution Focused Applications

SFP 18 – Learning together: Teaching Solution Focus at Brieffest with Bo Yon Koh and Haesun Moon

SFP 18 – Learning together: Teaching Solution Focus at Brieffest with Bo Yon Koh and Haesun Moon

SFP 17 – In Tune with Solution Focus: Interview with Dr. Bo Yon Koh

SFP 17 – In Tune with Solution Focus: Interview with Dr. Bo Yon Koh

SFP 16 – Celebrating one year on the road with Elfie Czerny & Dominik Godat & Bibiana

SFP 16 – Celebrating one year on the road with Elfie Czerny & Dominik Godat & Bibiana

SFP 15 – Inspiring others again: A reflection with Elfie Czerny & Dominik Godat

SFP 15 – Inspiring others again: A reflection with Elfie Czerny & Dominik Godat

SFP 14 – Inspiring others: A reflection with Elfie Czerny & Dominik Godat

SFP 14 – Inspiring others: A reflection with Elfie Czerny & Dominik Godat

SFP 13 – Solution Focus at Work: Interview with Victor Nelson

SFP 13 – Solution Focus at Work: Interview with Victor Nelson

SFP 12 – Interactional Relationships: Interview with Dr. Thorana Nelson

SFP 12 – Interactional Relationships: Interview with Dr. Thorana Nelson

SFP 11 – Language of Hope: Interview with Haesun Moon

SFP 11 – Language of Hope: Interview with Haesun Moon

SFP 10 – Seeing Interaction: Interview with Janet Beavin Bavelas

SFP 10 – Seeing Interaction: Interview with Janet Beavin Bavelas

SFP 9 – Persistent in being curios: Interview with Dr. Stephen Langer about Solution Focused Brief Therapy

SFP 9 – Persistent in being curios: Interview with Dr. Stephen Langer about Solution Focused Brief Therapy

SFP 8 – Let’s play…: Interview with Pamela K. King

SFP 8 – Let’s play…: Interview with Pamela K. King

SFP 7 – Effective Leadership with Solution Focus: Interview with Monica Rotner

SFP 7 – Effective Leadership with Solution Focus: Interview with Monica Rotner

SFP 6 – Solution Focused Listening

SFP 6 – Solution Focused Listening

SFP 5 – The GREAT relationship: Interview with Jonathan D. Sherman

SFP 5 – The GREAT relationship: Interview with Jonathan D. Sherman

SFP 4 – The art of asking great Solution Focused questions

SFP 4 – The art of asking great Solution Focused questions

SFP 3 – Solution Focus makes a difference

SFP 3 – Solution Focus makes a difference

SFP 2 – Amplifying useful change in an ever changing world

SFP 2 – Amplifying useful change in an ever changing world

SFP 1 – The Simply Focus Podcast

SFP 1 – The Simply Focus Podcast

SFP 4 – The art of asking great Solution Focused questions

SFP 4 – The art of asking great Solution Focused questions

SIMPLY FOCUS Podcast

SFP 4 – Episode 4: The art of asking great Solution Focused questions

Simply Focus Podcast – Episode #4

Hosted by: Elfie Czerny & Dominik Godat | Intro: Bibiana Czerny |Music: www.bensound.com 

SFP 4 - Episode 4: The art of asking great Solution Focused Questions

by Elfie Czerny & Dominik Godat | Simply Focus Podcast | 18:09

“However deliberately asking questions that make a difference, is not that easy. It’s an art that is benefical and very worthwile to master.”

“Your question determines an answer spectrum, so choose this wisely and observe the answers you get.”

“And one thing what makes me so passionate about this podcast is that when I started to ask myself those questions I really found completely different answers than I did before.” 

Elfie Czerny

„So the person who asks introduces a concept (also called a presupposition) and the person who responds adds the content to that. At the end you saying ‘this and this are my highlights’ is co-created between us.”

“Our best hopes from this podcast episode are that you deliberately choose your answering spectrums and your concepts that you introduce in your questions in the future.”

Dominik Godat

Show Notes

In today’s episode, we talk about

  • what we especially enjoyed last week.
  • different types of questions: The ones that are primarily about gathering information and the others which are designed to trigger a reflection, a thinking process that helps the person that responds.
  • how your questions determine an answer spectrum and that it is important to choose this wisely and observe the answers you get.
  • how the concepts that you introduce in your questions co-construct the conversation as much as the answers and that it’s worthwile to be aware of your share of the story.
  • The challenge of the week: Observe the questions you ask and the answers you get. Take a few minutes every day to reflect on that. Check the answer spectrum your questions implied and what concepts you introduced in your questions. Additionaly you can go through the questions in our free giveaway “21 Solution Focused Questions to Enhance Your Daily Life” and explore the concepts and answer spectrums there.

Resources

Join the conversation

Let’s make a difference for others, share your insights, and ask great questions! Friendpower is stronger than willpower. So, let’s inspire each other! Share your ideas and thoughts on what inspired you and what differences this makes for you in your everyday life. Share as much detail as possible. Your story might be the one making a vital difference for someone else. Your thoughts and ideas matter and might encourage others to keep on going their SF journey. If you have friends, clients or colleagues who you think might be inspired by this conversation, share this podcast episode. It could give them some practical ideas on how to apply Solution Focus in their daily work and life.

Thank you!

Thank you for listening to our podcast. You are awesome! That you listen to our podcast makes a huge difference for us. Please let us know and get in touch with us: Comment below or send us a message and tell us what difference our podcast series makes for you.

What a great team at the Community Justice Service in Boulder! What a cool workshop!

Listen to more Simply Focus Podcast episodes:

SFP 68 – Inspiring the Next Generation: Unlearning and Unteaching Solution-Focused Practice with Dr. Biba Rebolj

SFP 68 – Inspiring the Next Generation: Unlearning and Unteaching Solution-Focused Practice with Dr. Biba Rebolj

SFP 67 – Building on What Works: A Different Kind of Conversation in School Counseling with Erin Cusanno

SFP 67 – Building on What Works: A Different Kind of Conversation in School Counseling with Erin Cusanno

SFP 66 – Towards Collectivising Solution-Focused Practice: Into the Community with Hope and the Ordinary in Action with Guy Shennan

SFP 66 – Towards Collectivising Solution-Focused Practice: Into the Community with Hope and the Ordinary in Action with Guy Shennan

SFP 65 – Nothing special about it – From Mental Health to End of Life and Grief Counseling with Joel K. Simon

SFP 65 – Nothing special about it – From Mental Health to End of Life and Grief Counseling with Joel K. Simon

SFP 64 – Applying Systemic Structural Constellations SySt® and Solution Focus with Ute Habenicht and Norbert Wandl

SFP 64 – Applying Systemic Structural Constellations SySt® and Solution Focus with Ute Habenicht and Norbert Wandl

SFP 63 – The Flip Side of Failing: Exploring Greatness with Sarah McVanel

SFP 63 – The Flip Side of Failing: Exploring Greatness with Sarah McVanel

SFP 62 – Connecting People: How do you do it? with Kati Hankovszky

SFP 62 – Connecting People: How do you do it? with Kati Hankovszky

SFP 61 – Crossing Paths: Solution Focused Practices and Community Building in Slovakia with Andrea Schovancová and Marek Koreň

SFP 61 – Crossing Paths: Solution Focused Practices and Community Building in Slovakia with Andrea Schovancová and Marek Koreň

SFP 60 – In Interaction: Debunking Myths of Communication with Jennifer Gerwing and Sara Healing

SFP 60 – In Interaction: Debunking Myths of Communication with Jennifer Gerwing and Sara Healing

SFP 59 – Supporting communication choices: How to use Solution Focused ideas in university teaching with Dr. David Weber

SFP 59 – Supporting communication choices: How to use Solution Focused ideas in university teaching with Dr. David Weber

SFP 58 – Celebrating the SFWorldDay: The Three Questions for a Good Life with Sébastien Vernieuwe and members of the Swiss Network for Solution Focused Work (NLA)

SFP 58 – Celebrating the SFWorldDay: The Three Questions for a Good Life with Sébastien Vernieuwe and members of the Swiss Network for Solution Focused Work (NLA)

SFP 57 – Our Perception matters: How to be minutely curious about clients being at their best with Dr. Adam Froerer

SFP 57 – Our Perception matters: How to be minutely curious about clients being at their best with Dr. Adam Froerer

SFP 56 – Don’t assume, ask: A unique conversation about common factors, respect, and keeping clients at the center with Prof. John Murphy

SFP 56 – Don’t assume, ask: A unique conversation about common factors, respect, and keeping clients at the center with Prof. John Murphy

SFP 55 – Practice-Based Evidence: Looking at what is effective in what we do with Prof. Frank Thomas

SFP 55 – Practice-Based Evidence: Looking at what is effective in what we do with Prof. Frank Thomas

SFP 54 – Wellness factor Solution Focus: A conversation about SF supervision with Marcella Stark

SFP 54 – Wellness factor Solution Focus: A conversation about SF supervision with Marcella Stark

SFP 53 – Solution-Focused Therapy with Children and Adolescents: Creative and Play-Based Approaches with Becky Taylor

SFP 53 – Solution-Focused Therapy with Children and Adolescents: Creative and Play-Based Approaches with Becky Taylor

SFP 52 – Happy Birthday Simply Focus Podcast: A meaningful conversation about our journey with John Murphy

SFP 52 – Happy Birthday Simply Focus Podcast: A meaningful conversation about our journey with John Murphy

SFP 51 – Putting differences to work: The Solution Focused Counseling Program at TCU with Becky Taylor, Frank Thomas, Marcella Stark and three of their PH.D. students

SFP 51 – Putting differences to work: The Solution Focused Counseling Program at TCU with Becky Taylor, Frank Thomas, Marcella Stark and three of their PH.D. students

SFP 50 – Being out there with Solution Focus: A hopeful perspective for the medical sector and sexual minorities with Benjamin Finlayson

SFP 50 – Being out there with Solution Focus: A hopeful perspective for the medical sector and sexual minorities with Benjamin Finlayson

SFP 49 – Living on the streets: A conversation about connection, humanity and the importance of community with Stacy Nelson

SFP 49 – Living on the streets: A conversation about connection, humanity and the importance of community with Stacy Nelson

SFP 48 – 19 Voices: Learnings and Inspirations from the SFU Conference in Taos

SFP 48 – 19 Voices: Learnings and Inspirations from the SFU Conference in Taos

SFP 47 – Solution Focused Recipes: From Trauma to Everyday Life with Yvonne Dolan

SFP 47 – Solution Focused Recipes: From Trauma to Everyday Life with Yvonne Dolan

SFP 46 – Solution Focus for every-body with Mark Mitchell

SFP 46 – Solution Focus for every-body with Mark Mitchell

SFP 45 – How to decide: A Solution Focused approach to making better decisions with Ellen Quick

SFP 45 – How to decide: A Solution Focused approach to making better decisions with Ellen Quick

SFP 44 – How to learn to have effective conversations with Sara Smock Jordan

SFP 44 – How to learn to have effective conversations with Sara Smock Jordan

SFP 43 – Beyond Goals, Beyond Habits: 5 Questions for your Reflections

SFP 43 – Beyond Goals, Beyond Habits: 5 Questions for your Reflections

SFP 42 – Diabetes Prevention: Kat & Gary Barclay working online with Solution Focus

SFP 42 – Diabetes Prevention: Kat & Gary Barclay working online with Solution Focus

SFP 41 – Solution Focus is an Evidence-Based Intervention: The Impact of Research for Solution Focus with Johnny S. Kim

SFP 41 – Solution Focus is an Evidence-Based Intervention: The Impact of Research for Solution Focus with Johnny S. Kim

SFP 40 – Systems Thinking: Dr. Thorana Nelson about Solution Focused Brief Therapy with Families

SFP 40 – Systems Thinking: Dr. Thorana Nelson about Solution Focused Brief Therapy with Families

SFP 39 – Creating Ripples: 7 questions every leader should ask with Simon Lee

SFP 39 – Creating Ripples: 7 questions every leader should ask with Simon Lee

SFP 38 – Exceptional Sessions: Animal-Assisted Solution Focused Brief Therapy & More with Teri Pichot

SFP 38 – Exceptional Sessions: Animal-Assisted Solution Focused Brief Therapy & More with Teri Pichot

SFP 37 – Training Solution Focus: Training Trainers with Brenda Zalter-Minden and Heather Fiske

SFP 37 – Training Solution Focus: Training Trainers with Brenda Zalter-Minden and Heather Fiske

SFP 36 – Deliberate Practice: Reflecting Solution Focused Development with Scott D. Miller

SFP 36 – Deliberate Practice: Reflecting Solution Focused Development with Scott D. Miller

SFP 35 – Observing Solution Focus: A conversation with Gale Miller about his time at BFTC

SFP 35 – Observing Solution Focus: A conversation with Gale Miller about his time at BFTC

SFP 34 – Back to the roots: A conversation about the beginning of Solution Focus with Eve Lipchik

SFP 34 – Back to the roots: A conversation about the beginning of Solution Focus with Eve Lipchik

SFP 33 – Surfing the waves: Sinking into the joy with Angela Knox

SFP 33 – Surfing the waves: Sinking into the joy with Angela Knox

SFP 32 – Small steps count: A conversation about SF parenting, SF in Japan and more with Keiko Yoneyama

SFP 32 – Small steps count: A conversation about SF parenting, SF in Japan and more with Keiko Yoneyama

SFP 31 – Fascination Solution Focus

SFP 31 – Fascination Solution Focus

SFP 30 – SF Leadership: Everyday interactions that make a difference with Dominik Godat

SFP 30 – SF Leadership: Everyday interactions that make a difference with Dominik Godat

SFP 29 – Words arise out of Silence: A Poetic Conversation with Dvorah Simon

SFP 29 – Words arise out of Silence: A Poetic Conversation with Dvorah Simon

SFP 28 – In the Land of Possibilities with Bill O’Hanlon

SFP 28 – In the Land of Possibilities with Bill O’Hanlon

SFP 27 – Hope in Action: A Conversation with Heather Fiske about Solution Focused Suicide Prevention

SFP 27 – Hope in Action: A Conversation with Heather Fiske about Solution Focused Suicide Prevention

SFP 26 – Celebrating Half a Year SIMPLY FOCUS Podcast with That Reminds Me Of The Following Story by Hannes Couvreur

SFP 26 – Celebrating Half a Year SIMPLY FOCUS Podcast with That Reminds Me Of The Following Story by Hannes Couvreur

SFP 25 – Seeing Opportunities – Pull the Golden Ribbon: Interview with Brigitte Lavoie

SFP 25 – Seeing Opportunities – Pull the Golden Ribbon: Interview with Brigitte Lavoie

SFP 24 – Being in Love with Love: Interview with Elliott Connie

SFP 24 – Being in Love with Love: Interview with Elliott Connie

SFP 23 – What directions do you choose in your conversations? – A face-to-face dialogue with Dr. Peter de Jong

SFP 23 – What directions do you choose in your conversations? – A face-to-face dialogue with Dr. Peter de Jong

SFP 22 – Energized: Interview with Bob Faw about energizing ourselves and others

SFP 22 – Energized: Interview with Bob Faw about energizing ourselves and others

SFP 21 – Living in Sunday Right Away: Interview with Laura Cole about her first three weeks with SF

SFP 21 – Living in Sunday Right Away: Interview with Laura Cole about her first three weeks with SF

SFP 20 – Frog or Forever Recognize Other’s Greatness: Interview with Brenda Zalter-Minden

SFP 20 – Frog or Forever Recognize Other’s Greatness: Interview with Brenda Zalter-Minden

SFP 19 – At the Round Table with Alan Kay: Solution Focused Applications

SFP 19 – At the Round Table with Alan Kay: Solution Focused Applications

SFP 18 – Learning together: Teaching Solution Focus at Brieffest with Bo Yon Koh and Haesun Moon

SFP 18 – Learning together: Teaching Solution Focus at Brieffest with Bo Yon Koh and Haesun Moon

SFP 17 – In Tune with Solution Focus: Interview with Dr. Bo Yon Koh

SFP 17 – In Tune with Solution Focus: Interview with Dr. Bo Yon Koh

SFP 16 – Celebrating one year on the road with Elfie Czerny & Dominik Godat & Bibiana

SFP 16 – Celebrating one year on the road with Elfie Czerny & Dominik Godat & Bibiana

SFP 15 – Inspiring others again: A reflection with Elfie Czerny & Dominik Godat

SFP 15 – Inspiring others again: A reflection with Elfie Czerny & Dominik Godat

SFP 14 – Inspiring others: A reflection with Elfie Czerny & Dominik Godat

SFP 14 – Inspiring others: A reflection with Elfie Czerny & Dominik Godat

SFP 13 – Solution Focus at Work: Interview with Victor Nelson

SFP 13 – Solution Focus at Work: Interview with Victor Nelson

SFP 12 – Interactional Relationships: Interview with Dr. Thorana Nelson

SFP 12 – Interactional Relationships: Interview with Dr. Thorana Nelson

SFP 11 – Language of Hope: Interview with Haesun Moon

SFP 11 – Language of Hope: Interview with Haesun Moon

SFP 10 – Seeing Interaction: Interview with Janet Beavin Bavelas

SFP 10 – Seeing Interaction: Interview with Janet Beavin Bavelas

SFP 9 – Persistent in being curios: Interview with Dr. Stephen Langer about Solution Focused Brief Therapy

SFP 9 – Persistent in being curios: Interview with Dr. Stephen Langer about Solution Focused Brief Therapy

SFP 8 – Let’s play…: Interview with Pamela K. King

SFP 8 – Let’s play…: Interview with Pamela K. King

SFP 7 – Effective Leadership with Solution Focus: Interview with Monica Rotner

SFP 7 – Effective Leadership with Solution Focus: Interview with Monica Rotner

SFP 6 – Solution Focused Listening

SFP 6 – Solution Focused Listening

SFP 5 – The GREAT relationship: Interview with Jonathan D. Sherman

SFP 5 – The GREAT relationship: Interview with Jonathan D. Sherman

SFP 4 – The art of asking great Solution Focused questions

SFP 4 – The art of asking great Solution Focused questions

SFP 3 – Solution Focus makes a difference

SFP 3 – Solution Focus makes a difference

SFP 2 – Amplifying useful change in an ever changing world

SFP 2 – Amplifying useful change in an ever changing world

SFP 1 – The Simply Focus Podcast

SFP 1 – The Simply Focus Podcast

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